I’ve been making a lot of stimmy stuff and sensory toys that my spouse and I can use when our neurodivergencies get really bad. I thought I would share a few on this post~
These are just what I’ve made so far. I’m currently making two more squishies, a cookie and a salmon sashimi! I plan to eventually add slime, kenetic sand and squishies to my etsy shop after I’m all settled into the new place in February. (I’m in the process of moving across states haha) Until then, I’ll just be trying to build up a stock and taking cool videos and pics of them!
So today I thought I would talk a little bit about uterine health and menstrual related issues because it is something I am currently going through.
Any person who has ever had a period has been through it, but some people do have it worse than others. Extremely heavy flows for seven straight days, cramps and contractions so bad they make you double over in pain and cry, often I feel the need to either not eat at all or to overeat and regardless which one I do, I always have the worst diarrhea ever when I’m on my period. I have terrible insomnia, accompanied by sore muscles all over my body, massive migraines, light sensitivity, vaginal sensitivity to the point where putting in and removing tampons makes me want to scream, etc etc etc.
Periods are not for the weak. And they ‘turn girls into women’ very quickly. If you can go to the toilet and see it full of blood and not be bothered at all as well as survive all the aforementioned symptoms of menstruation, congrats you are officially tougher than most of the non-uterine-having population.
But anyway. I’m here to give some advice on the subject. Because in my last 11 years as a period-haver I have learned a thing or two the hard way. Consider this a list of things that I wish people had told 11 year old me.
Now, my mom was very good about teaching me everything there is to know about periods. But some things I definitely learned from experience or from anatomy classes.
You WILL bleed through your favorite underwear at some point. You will bleed through your pajamas and your sheets and probably onto the mattress. It happens. Don’t be ashamed. Don’t feel bad. It happens to everyone who has ever had a uterus. It’s okay.
You will have mood swings. You’re not ‘crazy’ and you’re not ‘unstable’. It’s a natural time of regrouping for your hormones and emotions. If something is suddenly bothering you or making you angry, odds are that its actually been a problem for a while and your body is telling you not to put up with it anymore. Your body loves you and just wants what’s best for you.
It can really suck. It’s okay to cry and scream and lay in bed all day with a heat pad. Sometimes that’s all you can muster the strength to do. That’s okay. It’s natural. This is just your body flushing unnecessary blood and harmful toxins out of your body. It’s a good thing, even if it really doesn’t seem like it.
You are not weak for taking pain killers like candy. Midol and Excedrin might be your best friends for the next week.
If you don’t want to use pain killers, you can take a more natural approach. Chamomile tea is a natural muscle relaxer and helps with cramps. Dong Quai capsules help with overall uterine, vaginal and ovarian health and will also help with any menstrual symptoms and pains you may have.
Cramps come in waves. You may feel totally fine one second and then the next be huddled into a fetal position crying and wishing for a hysterectomy. Take deep breaths and try to remind yourself that it will pass, just like a contraction, and it will be over soon. It will be okay.
Heating pads, hot tea and hot baths are your best friend. Seriously. An Epsom salt bath, a cup of chamomile tea and a nice heating pad on your abdomen will help the pain.
You do not have to use tampons!!! For some people, they are extremely painful. Pads suck and can be really gross, and so tampons can be convenient, but honestly tampons are really bad for you. They are bleached with God knows what and they absorb all the moisture in your vagina, even the good stuff. They can be painful and sometimes pads are just a better option. That’s okay.
Commercially produced tampons and pads are really bad for your body, and for the environment. Not only can tampons cause toxic shock syndrome, they can also make cramps worse and cause a plethora of other health complications. Over 20 billion pounds of feminine hygiene products are dumped into landfills and the oceans every year. EVERY YEAR.
An Eco friendly alternative to tampons and pads is to switch to a menstrual cup and cotton, washable pads. I actually am just ordering my first menstrual cup, the Blossom cup, because it’s in my price range and I hear it’s a really good beginner cup (I will definitely do a review about it after I use it a couple times). I also ordered a few cute flower patterned cotton pads. I’m not squeamish with blood so I don’t foresee having a problem. Not only are both options better for the environment but they are better for you! None of that toxic chemical crap around your most delicate of parts, and menstrual cups actually greatly reduce cramps and menstrual related symptoms, as well as allowing your body to keep those natural fluids it produces.
Birth control is only a temporary fix for periods! It is not always the answer, even if your doc is convinced it is the only thing that would help. BC doesn’t actually stabilize your hormones, it shuts them off and the placebo week basically just lets the pills produce fake hormones to ‘regulate your period’. It’s not actually your own hormones being produced. In the long run, birth control is insanely bad for you. When or if you decide to get off of BC, you could gain a lot of weight, and your periods will be worse than ever and sometimes it can take your body months or years to normalize itself and produce its own hormones again. Personally, I was only only birth control (trinessa) for one year. 12 months. And I gained sixty pounds, my metabolism essentially shut down and now no matter what I do I cannot lose the weight, I didn’t have another period for almost seven months and when I did it lasted 13 days and was overwhelmingly heavy and extremely painful every single day. My body is still recovering, and will continue to attempt to regulate itself and recover from the damage that BC did for years to come. Take my advice, birth control is not always the answer.
Remember, your body and your period are not the bad guys. I know this can be hard, but believe me, your body loves you and is trying to keep you healthy.
Periods are sacred in some cultures, like my own. Periods are not a bad thing. They are not something to be ashamed of. They are not something disgusting or unclean and most western civilizations would have you believe. They are proof that you are the closest thing to divine we have here on earth because it’s proof that you have the power of creation. They connect us to the earth and to the spirits and make us powerful. Try to remember that, it may give you a whole new perspective. I know it did for me.
A soothing hair rinse that deepens color, promotes hair growth and maximizes scalp health!
1 tbsp Chamomile Flowers
1 tbsp Lavender Flowers
1 tbsp Marshmallow Root
1 tbsp Rosemary
1 tbsp Nettle
1 tbsp Thyme
1/2 tsp Cinnamon
Combine herbs with 3 cups of water in a pot. Heat for 15 minutes until boiled. Strain out the mixture through a coffee filter or a cheese cloth. Put the filtered liquid in a bottle and use in a cold shower.
This is a pretty easy recipe and a lot of fun. I’ve used it a lot. It’s relaxing and soothes sore muscles, making it helpful and easier to work the tension out.
1/4 ounce of Chamomile Flowers
1/4 ounce of Lavender Flowers
1/4 ounce of Bergamot
6 ounces of Olive Oil
Crush and mix the herbs together in a mortar and pestle. Combine the herbs and olive oil in a clear glass mason jar. Shake it up and place it either on a windowsill or outside in the sunlight. Leave it there for three days, shaking it up once a day. On the fourth day, strain the mixture and toss the herbs. Put your filtered liquid back in the glass jar. Store in a cool, dry place.
This is a recipe for a relaxing, healing and soothing liniment. This is for topical application only. Do not consume!
1/2 ounce Scullcap
1/2 ounce Lavender
1/2 ounce Chamomile
1/2 ounce Echinacea
16 fluid ounces of Isopropyl Rubbing Alcohol
Take a clean jar, a mason jar works well for this, or anything made of glass that can hold a quart, and place your herbs inside. Then, add the 16 ounces of alcohol. Place the lid on tightly and remember to label it. Shake the mixture up well and place in a dark place, like a cabinet or closet for 7 days. Shake it up once a day. At the end of the week, strain the liquid a few times and toss the herbs. Put your finished liniment in an amber bottle or a jar and store in a cool, dark place.
This is good for soothing sore muscles and helping heal bruises, sores and sprains. Remember not to get any in your eyes and try not to apply to the neck or face areas.